Since this blog started out as a way for me to vent my eternal frustration with dating someone who has bipolar and dealing with all of the serious repercussions, I have not written about this. I have a new boyfriend. I have been dating him for a little over two months and he is fantastic. He adores me. He worries about me. He takes care of me. It is a completely new situation for me to have someone else take care of me that I don’t need to take care of. It has taken me some getting used to but it is great. He’s smart and funny and caring. I got lucky.
On another topic all together, my bestfriend recently started dating a new guy. He is great. The four of us go on double dates and get along great. I was excited when they started dating because I think he is hilarious and awesome. I’m not so excited anymore. They have been dating for a month at the most and for 2 of those weeks she was in Israel. The other day they were making jokes about getting married. Haha that’s hilarious. Wait, your serious?!?!? NO WAY!!! I sat there with her and asked “why would you even consider marrying him now” and she had no answer for me. She couldn’t give me one reason why marrying him now is even kind of a reasonable idea. I gave her all of the reasons why what she is considering doing is completely unreasonable and irrational and she agreed… and then said “but I don’t care.” What’s worse is that he has been married before!!!!!!! Seems as though he would want to approach this with more caution and not quite so casually. Apparently not. He is the one convincing her that this is a good idea and it makes me want to punch him in the face!
There are not many people in my life that I love whole heatedly. A handful, maybe. One less now that my grandmother has passed away. One less now that Glenn has exited my life. I have this feeling of impending doom. I feel like if I don’t support her in this terrible decision that she is making it will be the end of our friendship. I don’t know if I can handle losing another one of the people I love.
I don’t understand what the rush is to get married. My cousin just married a guy that she’s only known for a few months. Of course I am going to support her being “in love with him” if he makes her happy – but why marriage? If you love each other and you want to be with each other, it won’t matter if you have to wait a few more years right? Because you want to be together either way right?
She’s not the only one though, it seems like all my friends are jumping to get married now. And it worries me.
I dunno. I really hope your friend comes around for you. It is hard to see something like that happen when you know they’re probably going to end up hurt.
Bless your heart. After all you have been through, I am glad to see you have someone in your life that doesn’t require you to take care of him or worry every night about his well-being.
Now on the subject of your friend…whack. A lot of people do jump into marriage, especially if others around them are getting married.
Since you like this guy, maybe you can talk to her (or listen to her), always reminding her how much you like her boyfriend.
Otherwise, I guess it is your job to hold the tissues when if it doesn’t work out.